Tanya’s Cancer Journey
This is what Living Proof Cancer Warriors means to me and my children and honestly I hope I am able to verbalize the magnitude of how your help has impacted my future and my children’s. I am very honored and humbled to have been selected by your organization firstly because I know there are so many well deserving families and who need help as I.
I kept thinking why me? Why pick me? I’m the person who never got picked; but I am also the person who takes joy in being the giver for decades, not receiver. And then cancer came to teach me a whole new mountain of life altering lessons and embark on a journey with a few repeats to re-learn my self-worth, my value, purpose, and whose I am first. Cancer steels more than I ever imagined and brings many scary days, nights, months filled with uncertainty. But God.
Although I have a very long journey that started at age 34 in 2015 with diagnosis of HER2- breast cancer, Living Proof Cancer Warriors came into my family’s life during my 3rd breast cancer diagnosis in fall of 2018. And this was at the perfect timing, God’s timing. When I received Trisha’s call about my case and provided me with the history of this organization and how the process works I remembered I was sitting on the floor in the hallway by my filing drawers. I was going through piles of paperwork trying to get organized and sort the current happenings of life. I was fighting for my life, for my children to have a mother, a home, and going through many deep, dark emotional heartbreaks and trials. Feeling alone, pain, sick, and scared is simply stating what I was going through. Trisha handled my “chemo brain” with grace and empathy. What should have been simple answers I was scattered, as I remember. I am not sure if Trisha recalls those phone calls and correspondence from my daily chemo brain days, but no matter how hard of a time I was enduring, she repeatedly reaffirmed my value, that I am not alone, I am a warrior, and that I am believed in. To be told over and over I am believed in gave me a hope that I had lost.
You see, part of my journey I was told I am not loved and left to defend for my children and I. I was told I did not amount to being a woman of value having lost so much to over 10 cancer surgeries and countless rounds of variety of chemo treatments. I was not worth fighting for. Long, long story short: my now ex-husband walked out of our children’s and my life in December 2017, during my 2nd battle of breast cancer, Triple Negative. With that alone brought devastation and horrific hurts, clarity & peace stolen, and a divorce battle that was a constant weight and fears of what-if’s…in addition to fighting for my life against a disease that has no empathy, no care, or reference for keeping families together.
Living Proof Cancer Warriors came into our life at God’s perfect timing. I was praying for many physical and financial miracles. I didn’t know many “how am I doing to make this happen and survive this season”. You picking me as grant recipient and working with me sparked a flame and ignited hope I had lost through each painful struggle and challenge. Not only because of monetary donation and life altering help that kept a home for children and me, but also mental, emotional, and spiritual help. I cannot say thank you enough to express the levels of impact you have on my family but thank you. For doing the grilling work volunteering and raising awareness, seeing a need to make a difference in the journey of cancer. Cancer is horrible, most definitely yes…but out of ashes comes beauty and Living Proof Cancer Warriors was a turning point of what tried to destroy us was not able to succeed! Thank you for caring. Thank you for seeing value in my children and myself…during a time all I saw was a very hurt woman who was left at a time I didn’t even know if I was going to live; I believed for some time I was a failure, deformed, a hairless freak…but God reminded me whose I am first and I am made whole, in His image, and He brought us y’all (getting some Texan in) who picked me to help and become a living legacy for my children.
I hope this helps express my thankfulness, gratitude, the forever lasting impact you have on my family, the hope you instill, uplifting me when I was down (deep, deep down), and meeting needs far greater than imagined. I am forever thankful you picked me…beyond humbled and appreciative! Rescued us and provided a chance for many stressors uplifted so I can fight to live; that’s Agape. Thank you for helping me live so I could beat Triple Negative cancer, overcome divorce, defeat worthlessness, and grow…to be mom to Conner and Zoe.
I am Living Proof!
Cancer Warrior 2015/2016 (HER2-), 2017/2018 (Triple Negative), 2018/2019 (Triple Negative)
Mother to Conner & Zoe
“Faith, Fight, Finish”
“My kids are watching; there is no giving up”
“God is good all the time”
Tanya was our first Warrior and an example to us all on how to be steadfast, loyal, loving, selfless, faithful, funny, fearless and adventurous. Tanya’s cancer returned again the fall of 2019 and spread to her skin. She fought harder than anyone we have ever met with perseverance and belief unsurpassed by anything. She finished her fight on Monday, May 18th at 11:30pm. We would like to honor Tanya by keeping a fund established by her family and friends available for her children on our site. If you would like to donate to either fund you can go to https://www.ugift529.com/ and enter Code: U6N-33A for her son Conner or Code: 63K-V6T for her daughter Zoe.
October 1, 1990 – May 18, 2020 Faith – Fight – Finish – We LOVE you Tanya.